Weight Loss Wednesday: Just Because It Tastes Good Doesn’t Mean I Have to Eat It

I’ve been talking with my sister-in-law about weight loss. She told me a thought that has really been helping her: Just because it tastes good, doesn’t mean I have to eat it. This is really helpful in a lot of ways. One way is that it helps you to not resist your urge or desire. Sometimes when we’re trying to lose weight, we’re just resisting eating all of the foods we want to eat. This makes the desire even stronger. We say, “That’s not as good as I think it is.” Or we try to not have the food around, or even smell the food. What if you just saw the food and thought, “Yep, I love that food. That doesn’t mean I have to eat it.”

Think about it, we don’t do that with other things. Just because we love a few shirts, that doesn’t mean that we put them all on and wear them all of the time. We need to wash them sometimes. It’s more comfortable to just wear one at a time. The same with food. If we ate cookies all of the time, we wouldn’t be able to reach our health goals. It’s really more comfortable to not overeat, or even eat sweets all of the time, or other foods that may not contribute to our health.

Our brains are really convincing when it comes to things that give us a big dopamine hit. It’s good to have go-to thoughts like this one, so when our brains tell us, “That is really good for our survival. You should eat it right now.” You can gently remind your brain, “Everything is okay. We don’t need to feel pleasure all of the time. We can try other things to raise our dopamine. Just because it tastes good, doesn’t mean it’s going to contribute to my higher goals.”

Try it out and let me know what you think.

Weight Loss Wednesday: Rewriting Your Story About Food

What is your story about food? Is it your enjoyment and pleasure? Do you love it and hate it? When you think about giving up a certain kind of food, do you feel like you want to cry? If so, you’re not alone. What if you could have a healthier relationship with food? For a few years, I’ve thought about giving up sugar. But I felt like all of my joy would be sucked out of my life if I did.

I decided I didn’t like that food gave me the most joy in my life. So, I’ve rewritten my story about food. I read it every day. The important thing is that I really believe these thoughts. Now I’m working on making the thoughts second nature.

Maybe this can help you with some ideas to get you started:


I’m not that into food. I could take it or leave it. I  enjoy some foods, but if I don’t have them it’s not a big deal, because there are so many other things that give me more joy.
I never eat until I’m really full. There’s just no reason to do that because there’s always going to be more food in a few hours. I skip meals fairly often because I’m either caught up in something or I’m not hungry at “mealtime”. I just eat at the next meal. (something I learned from John Gabriel, naturally thin people skip meals quite often, not on purpose, just they’re not hungry, or it’s not a convenient time to eat) I also just like to give my digestive system a rest, so I hardly ever eat in between meals.
I’m not afraid of being hungry. It comes in waves, so I get hungry, but then it goes away, and comes back a few hours later. I know my body knows how to get fuel from the fat on my body, so it’s not urgent.
Some of the things I enjoy more than eating are reading, organizing or cleaning out closets or spaces in my my house, art projects like making cards, meditating, hanging out with friends, snuggling with my kids.


What would your new story with food be?


Weight Loss Wednesday: Your Future Self

Today I wanted to tell you a technique called Your Future Self. This is helpful for anything you want to achieve, but today I’ll tell you about it from the standpoint of losing weight.

If you want to lose weight, imagine yourself when you’re at your ideal weight. Don’t go back in time, go to the future. Imagine you’ve let go of the weight that you want to, and you’ve kept it off for a few years. What does your future self look like? What kinds of clothes does she wear? What habits does she have? How does she feel? Most importantly, what thoughts does she have that you don’t currently have?

If you’re not sure on the last one, listen to someone who is naturally thin. Listen to the way they talk (or don’t talk) about food. I’ve been doing this for awhile, and some of the main things I hear are, “I’m just not that into food.” “It’s so inconvenient to have to eat sometimes.” “I just get into what I’m doing, and I forget to eat.”

Have fun with this! Have your future self help you think like her, and then watch as you begin to look and feel like her.