How to Change the Past

You know those times in your past when you felt like a failure? You know how your brain likes to bring one or more of them up when you want to try something new, or when you’re around someone you see as super successful, and then you feel small and like you have no business even thinking of trying?

What if you could feel successful about those times in your life, instead of like a failure? How would that change things for you?

Well, you can and I’m going to tell you how. 

Imagine you’re writing a news story about a time in your life. What would the headline be? Something like, “Woman is a Failure at …..”. 

The only reason you see this situation in your life as a fail is because you’re believing this headline. Your brain then dutifully fills in the rest of the story highlighting how the headline is true.

But, if you change the headline to the opposite…something like, “Woman succeeds at…” your brain will slowly, maybe VERY slowly start filling in the story highlighting the ways this situation was a success. 

Our brains only want to be right. So, if you change the headline, the story must change to make the headline right. 

It is simple, but it’s not easy. It takes dedication to believe that MAYBE the “fail” story is wrong, and maybe, just MAYBE the “success” is right. How is it true that that time in your life really was a win? 

At first, you might feel like a fraud. You’ll find some evidence of the new story, and your brain will be like, “But what about this other story??”

You have to be brave enough to say, “Shhh….I know. But we’re writing a different story. It needs time. We’re scrapping that old story.” 

I promise there are things you already believe are a success about that time in your life if you’re willing to be open to the idea that it was a success.

P.S. Are you ready to feel successful as a wife, mother, and woman in this world? Sign-up for a FREE 45 minute online consultation. I can’t wait to show you the ways that you already know you’re a success, so that you can create more of that. Doesn’t that sound more fun than replaying the past in a negative way and feeling like a failure?