Thursday Thought: I’m not the only one.

Recently, when I was going through a transition, I noticed how I wanted to be angry with everyone around me.

I wanted to blame everyone for how I was feeling.

I wanted them to see how badly I was hurting inside, and tell me it was okay.

I didn’t act or talk the way I wanted to act and talk.

For a little while I believed I was just stating the facts about how the people around me were just not getting it, were being selfish, weren’t helpful or thoughtful or kind.

Then the thought came to me, “I’m not the only one going through a transition.”

When we’re not in the midst of feeling despair and anxiety and even depression, it’s easier to see that others aren’t responsible for how we feel.

But when we’re in it, it’s really hard to see past our own pain.

In the moment that this thought came to me, “I’m not the only one….struggling….going through a transition…in pain.” I wrote it down.

I knew I’d forget. But for a moment, it was clear that no one was trying to hurt me.

No one wanted me to be in pain, or was trying to cause my pain.

We’re all just a little caught up in what’s going on inside ourselves. And that’s okay.

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Thursday Thought: Maybe it’s supposed to be challenging.

Life is challenging. Can I get an ‘Amen’? I feel like there’s a lot of marketing telling us that it doesn’t need to be challenging. That we deserve to have it easy and fun.

This really feeds into how our brains naturally function. Two of its main goals are to expend the least amount of energy and seek pleasure.

I’m all for trying to make things easier and more enjoyable. But the biggest problem I see is when things in our lives feel really hard, heavy, and uncomfortable we think something has gone wrong, or we’re doing something wrong.

We think, “This isn’t fair.” or “If I could just be better, this wouldn’t be so hard.”

What if those thoughts just weren’t true? What if “this” situation, whatever it is for you or me, IS supposed to be challenging for YOU or ME.

What if it was okay that it was challenging? What if we were like a soccer player, who was used to being the best player on her team, but now she’s been moved to a better team? Now is supposed to be challenging, and it’s okay.

Don’t listen to your brain when it tells you there’s something wrong because it’s difficult. For sure, don’t listen to the lie that if you were somehow better or different that “this” wouldn’t be challenging.

Maybe it’s okay if “this” is challenging.

P.S. If you like these posts and are interested in getting some more personal help with your struggles or seeing your amazingness. I’d love for you to sign-up for a free coaching session. You don’t have to come prepared or have anything necessarily to say. I will ask you questions and guide you the whole time. I’d love to meet you!