Why You Should Celebrate Failure

Have you ever been working toward a goal, and then you come to that point where the newness and excitement wear off, and it feels a little bit more like drudgery? Maybe you’ve slipped up a few times, or even just given up.

Our first inclination at this time is to chalk it up to one more failed try. Or maybe you do what I do, and you just put your head down, and keep plowing through, but with no real feeling of accomplishment.

At these times, we can get really down. We can think things like, “What am I doing? Why am I even trying? I should just give up.” These are not very motivating, and it makes it harder to try again, or try something new.

I want to suggest that what you do instead is notice what you DID do. If you’ve failed, it means you tried. Really let that sink in. If you FAILED, that means you TRIED.

You tried! You were willing to be vulnerable. You were willing to mess up.

You may say, “What’s the point of trying if you’re just going to fail?” What do YOU think? What’s the alternative?

Just two reasons I’ll give you are: 1) when you try something new you are increasing neural pathways, and your brain is actually growing. EVEN IF you’re terrible at it! 2) You never know how this experience will help you later on in life. For sure something you learn from this experience will help you in another experience in life, if only to empathize with someone else.

So, if getting down on yourself is demotivating you, notice what you have learned, and appreciate your efforts, and see what you HAVE done and CELEBRATE it!

Who doesn’t love to be praised? And the most powerful praise comes from yourself, because you always know what you want to hear.

Sometimes it can be hard to find any good in your failure. If you want some help, please sign-up for a FREE one-on-one Consultation Session/Coaching Session with me. It can be scary sharing what you view as a failure, but I create a safe space and environment for you to do just that. I will help you see what you can celebrate about your failure, and how it can then motivate you to either keep going, or to try something new. Sign-up today!

Thursday Thought: Imperfections do not make us inadequate, they make us human

Raise your hand if you feel like your imperfections make you inadequate. I’m not talking about little imperfections, the ones we don’t mind so much sharing with others. I’m talking imperfections that bring you shame. This will be different for everyone, but here are a few that I have or have heard from my clients:

I yell at my kids.

I don’t pray and read my scriptures every day (or week…or month…)

My child hasn’t learned…how to read…regulate his/her emotions…use the potty…make friends…anything we think, if we had taught them effectively, they would have learned by now. (Notice how this isn’t even about us, but we make it mean there’s something wrong with us.)

I don’t like having sex with my husband.

I’ve gained 30 pounds in the last 6 months.

I gossip about my family.

It goes like this, “I (insert imperfection that causes shame), therefore, I’m not a fit human being.”

Try, “I (imperfection), therefore, I AM a human being.” Welcome.

Let’s remind ourselves and each other, “Imperfections don’t make us inadequate; they make us human.” Remember that’s why we needed Jesus Christ. It’s all part of The Plan.

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