I know I’ve used this quote before, but it’s a good one. Byron Katie said, “When I argue with reality, I lose–but only 100% of the time.” Meaning whatever happens is supposed to happen. I’ve heard quoted in a few different places, “The Universe is constantly conspiring in your favour.”
So, when bad things happen, for some reason it is supposed to happen. If your parents were emotionally distant, perhaps that’s so that when you became an adult, you would study how to be emotionally mature. Perhaps you had a traumatic experience that has made you stronger, or maybe it hasn’t yet, but you will look for answers that will someday make you a stronger person.
You definitely don’t have to believe this thought if you don’t want to. I find it very helpful and empowering. One of my go-to thoughts of late has been along the same lines, “Everything is as it should be.” Nothing has gone wrong.
God is watching over you. I may not feel it all of the time. But I believe it.