When You’re Afraid You’ve Messed Up Your Kids

What are you afraid of today? Can you pinpoint one thing?

A lot of my fears have to do with how my kids will be in the future. Sometimes we put this huge pressure on ourselves to do everything right as parents, so that our kids won’t have to suffer in the future. 

As I was contemplating this one day, I had the thought, “Heavenly Father has an individual relationship with each of my kids, just like he does with me.” 

This may not seem earth-shattering, but I’ll tell you why it was for me.

I unintentionally decided that I was in between God and my kids. I thought He would talk to me, then I would tell my kids. That’s a lot of pressure to not mess it up, to not miss anything. Heck, I was having a hard time hearing what God was telling ME, let alone my kids.

When I had the thought that He has an individual relationship with each of them, the pressure dropped. 

Of course my husband and I will mess things up. We’re humans. Guess what, God is sending His children to imperfect humans to be raised. I don’t think this was an accident. 

I realized that even when terrible, horrible things happen, God can make it good, meaning He can work with it to make it good for us…when we turn to Him. 

So, yes, we will do things that will cause our kids to suffer, unknowingly, inadvertently, and maybe even sometimes on purpose because we’re imperfect humans.

But when they turn to God, He will make it create goodness for them. 

How has God created goodness in your life from your parents’ mistakes or inadequacies? 

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